Dating a widowed man
(A LOT lot.) It still seems like an insult to my friends who are widowed men (who are frequently outraged by these blogs) to admit that there is something there... Perhaps men are more frequently bad daters, overall? There is certainly scads and scads of material about dating divorced men...
Nor does it seem to generate this much controversy, even though widowed women talk about dating a lot.They might be used to a wife who did all the domestic things for them, such as the laundry, grocery shopping, cooking, or even fixing a running toilet.So you see a widower online, and you are thinking, “What a great catch this man is! ” Not having done your homework and investigated the challenges, you are encouraged. Perhaps you are recently divorced and now you find yourself exploring available men online. Have you heard that widowers are great dates, who know what they want and are ready to get it?Many widowers have been married to only one spouse.Some may not have ever dated another woman, because they married the first woman they ever met.
A lot of older widowers have grown children; in fact, many may even be grandfathers. Widowers often need a woman’s touch around the house.
It didn't go well, but it had nothing to do with his loss.) So I tend to wonder, why is there no comparable community (and books) for those dating widowed WOMEN,given that they are 7/8ths of the widowed population?
(Annie and Able share their thoughts on this here).
Both behaviors are tacky and unnecessary in most situations. Not my personal set of beliefs so I don't quite "get" it.) And it doesn't apply to divorce anyway, unless the ex-wife has also died. I realize that it's probably not reasonable to compare dating a widow (a nice normal one like me) with dating a widower, but I think widowed people generally are treasures in the dating world.
Both widowed and divorced men should be able to talk about people in their past without cartoonish characterizations. Okay that is pretty weird, but isn't it a question of theology, like, are you healed when you get to heaven? (I only managed to find one widower when I was dating.
To be honest I have been pretty suspicious of these areas in part because when I was dating, at 40 ... To me, the only relevant person to compare a widower's baggage to was... (I mostly restricted my searches to men who had been parents, because I had a young child and needed someone who'd understand that if I cancelled a date due to flu that he shouldn't take it personally... prejudices which had been confirmed by experience.).